While some experts argue that self-esteem and unconditional self-acceptance are essentially the same, others present a different perspective, emphasizing the distinction between the two concepts based on the evaluation of the self. According to Ellis (1995) and those who share this viewpoint, self-esteem revolves around how individuals rate themselves, whether positively or negatively. It can be seen as a global self-rating where individuals perceive themselves as worthy only when they receive approval for specific achievements. Therefore, self-esteem can be viewed as a form of conditional self-acceptance. This pursuit of self-esteem often leads individuals to cling to the aspects of themselves they like while rejecting or discarding the parts they dislike, creating a contrast with the notion of self-acceptance.
On the other hand, self-acceptance pertains to how individuals relate to themselves in an accepting manner. It transcends the notions of positivity or negativity and instead represents a relational stance that embraces all aspects and experiences. Self-acceptance is not tied to the idea of "becoming" something or proving oneself as "worthy." Instead, it involves non-judgmentally affirming one's being with both strengths and weaknesses at any given moment. Cultivating self-acceptance can be seen as a healthier approach compared to the pursuit of self-esteem.
By shifting the focus from the pursuit of self-esteem to the cultivation of self-acceptance, individuals can foster a more holistic and compassionate relationship with themselves. Embracing all aspects of who they are, with strengths and weaknesses, contributes to enhanced well-being and positive psychological outcomes. The evidence suggests that self-acceptance offers a more sustainable and fulfilling path to personal growth and contentment.
The goal of this exercise is to foster self-acceptance by engaging in reflective practices and promoting a non-judgmental and compassionate relationship with oneself.
